Gta iv bieng gay?

ever since the launch i cant play da multiplayer ign was so optimistic about. it says the connection to one or more players has been lost. i try going into a game 10 ******* times and i get kicked out. the game modes i dont get kiked out of r hangmans noose and deathmatch wich get old. no game has been givin me so much trouble wether its on my 360 or ps3, besides this game.